My Dear Parents, It took me some time to connect with you again in this crucial exam time. Every student and parents are stressed out for the exams at hand. So do the teachers! While the students are working harder to get better grades in exams – I thought to share some experiences with you so that you can help them in doing better during exam time. As a parents, you must have dream about your child’s career and education. Right? But let me ask you a very critical question and I want you to answer yourself honestly. How much time do you spend with your child to;
- Understand his study practices,
- Help him cope with the pressure and
- Motivate him to do better than yesterday.
If you’re doing these, your child must be performing well as per your expectations. If not, you should not expect much. I know I am being harsh on parenting. But let me ask you another question. Did you observe your child is;
- staying away from you while studying?
- Not sharing what happened in school every day with you?
- Trying to escape from the discussion on report card?
- Not having a joyful conversation with you?
It’s not him. It’s us as parent. I won’t explain here how it works because It would make me write a few research papers on it. But I’ll share some critical a-must-do-list that will help you in getting the situation on right track.
1. Spend time with your child everyday – No Exception.
Your 15 min a day can make significant impact on your child’s education and growth. I understand you don’t get time for your work and other more significant things in life and family, but trust me – this is equally important. So here is the way.What about taking your child out for a 15-minutes-walk after dinner EVERYDAY and talk to him about what happened in school, his struggles in different topics and subject, did he do anything that you should be proud on, etc. You necessarily don’t need to talk about the equations and theorems he learns in school but you can listen to his problems and given him a moral support. That’s enough for him.
2. Encourage him on small wins
Every day, he does something good. You need to find out, during his talks, and pat his back for the small wins. He would tend to do it again and again to be good with you. Your act of encouragement brings him closer to you & will persuade him to do it again. By this, he would stop focusing on things that were not important to you. Eventually he would focus on his studies.
Parents involvement matters.
3. Understand the struggles he is going through with teachers, colleagues, or a particular chapter or any of his daily activities etc.
Not every child are equal in all the disciplines. Some are good at something while others are good at other things. They struggle through some of their daily activities every day. As a parent, you must try to discuss the challenges they are facing and try to offer moral support to them. You should try to show them the right approach to handle this problem.Sometimes, you may not find yourself adequate to solve his problems. Take the help of their teachers, tuition teachers or your spouse to help him overcome the issue. While anybody else than you help him in getting over his problems, he would always give the credit to you as you tried to figure out the problem and got the required help. J This bring your child closer to you.
How to Encourage your child & Boost Problem Solving Skills
4. Monitor his schedule and help him in setting the priorities.
A teenager’s brain is highly volatile in nature. They tend to get so involved in the present condition that they don’t look at the future outcomes of any activity. As a parents, if you find that something is not beneficial for him, talk about it in your post-dinner-talks.Educate him about why something is important and the other thing are not. Don’t impose your decisions on him. Instead, help him figure out why something is not right. Once he gets convinced, he would not do it. Be calm, patient and explanatory as much as you can.
5. Set the right environment
You must have set the rules at home that when the child is studying, no party is going on , or somebody is not enjoying the TV etc. This is discipline and a collaborative approach to help him with his studies. And, it should be followed without any deviation by all members in the family. But always remember that your child needs some time to relax, some time to feel happy by doing things that he loves. Let him do that. Try to be a part of it. Lighten the environment of your house and make sure that he is engaged into healthy discussion with family members and friends that are not related to studies.You’re setting him up to a complete man-woman, not a machine.
Teaching Mindfulness at Home to your child
6. Take care of his health
Make sure that he gets his meals on time. He gets fresh air and enough exercise. Avoid junk food and much outings. These all points came from our counselling team that counsel students on request or whenever they feel so. So you may disagree on some points but I am sure it will help many of the parents as you. If you follow them, you won’t complain that your teenager kid does not talk to you about his studies or getting away from you. J Here I found a video on internet that can get you some idea on how to help you child during exam stress.
Watch this and be a proud parent of a great future child. I hope these small tips would help in understanding your child better and get him back in the life again. He will smile back to you, I promise. If you’ve any question or disagreement, please feel free to write in the comment box below.